First Impressions and Lifestyle Importance

There is that old adage, "You only get one chance at a first impression", and it is true. Even more so in this lifestyle. Many times I have seen Dominants on the hunt for a long term submissive and are constantly befuddled as to why they don't have anyone interested. Looking at them it becomes apparent extremely quick. We all judge the book by its' cover, to steal another saying. Questions that are quickly answered...

"Are they my physical ideal?"

"Do they APPEAR to represent what I am looking for?"

"Are they able to provide what I am looking for?"

All these questions at least have a tentative answer before a word is ever said. Sometimes it is wrong, but not often. To use an often maligned concept, we profile, on both sides of the whip.

The first question, "Are they my physical ideal?" This could be for any number of reasons, from eye candy to physical stamina. Folks that are overweight are PRONE to increased health problems, not always but it does happen. If an s-type is looking for someone to do extended physically intensive scenes they may not be interested in someone that is morbidly overweight or gets winded coming up the steps. Likewise from the other side.

Second, "Do they appear to represent what I am looking for?" This could be any number of things, from the style of dress to how you carry yourself. If I am sporting high protocol tendencies and show up in shabby clothes someone who is looking for High Protocol may not be so interested. Next is the fit of clothing, and this is one that seems to happen more so with the male Dominants than female, the fit of your clothing. Those leather pants that you got 15 years ago, that you now wear four inches lower because of the gut. Get new pants. Now this does come with the caveat of showing up on a night that has a specific theme, you may not be dressed as you normally are, but I think most people make allowances for that, if they are aware of it.

Third, "Are they able to provide what I am looking for?" Now this is one that is very near and dear to my heart and soul. Maintaining equipment. We have equipment that is years old now, and the wear shows. But what also shows is that the equipment is well maintained. We don't keep it stuffed in a bag in the back of a closet. After each use, it is hung up so that the falls are hanging free, this allows the entire tool to air and prevents cracking or molding in the leather. Our equipment is wiped down, and maintained, either by Us or by an s-type under Our supervision. But it is done. In addition to the condition of equipment, tools, toys, is the selection. We don't take every tool We own when We go to the club. That would require way more luggage than I am willing to tote about. But We do take a selection even if We aren't going to use it, it never hurts to have just in case. Plus playing at clubs or during the number of home demonstrations We have done, it never hurts to have that equipment, because it may draw someone in. They may not be interested in your 50 floggers, but wow you have a violet wand... The door is opened and the discussion starts.

So if you are seeking, be aware of the image that you and your equipment are putting out there. That is what will draw that initial interest and get s-types talking to you. They are for lack of a better term, your money makers.

Ansuz
House Sarcasm